The Emotional Chef, by Chef Missy
Everyone has heard about the proverbial temperamental chef shredding and breaking the hearts of their kitchen staff. Well, after cooking professionally on and off over 25 years I can tell you there are still a few not-so-happy chefs out there who fit that description. They scream and drop the f-bomb literally into every sentence as a noun, verb and adjective! With that said I have also had the good fortune to work with some very talented big-hearted chefs who have taught me a lot.
The good news is that the temperamental chef is becoming a thing of the past. A new breed of joyful, spiritual, generous and thoughtful chefs are emerging and it is truly changing the landscape of our world for the better. Some of these new chefs know the secret — that every thought and emotion they feel while cooking immediately impacts the emotional, mental, spiritual and physical bodies of those that consume their food.
Many of you already know that the power of prayer over food helps our bodies, minds and hearts align with the vibration of gratitude while eating. You might not know that prayer over food (especially spoken aloud) helps our bodies physically digest and absorb the nourishment of food. But these words of gratitude go far beyond just praying over cooked food. Your thoughts, feelings, attitude and emotions while shopping, purchasing and cooking your food is paramount too!
Masaro Emoto discovered that human energy and consciousness affects the molecular structure of water. Most of us are familiar with his now world-renowned experiments which show that positive thoughts, words, intentions and spoken prayers produce harmonious crystal formations in water and can even cleanse polluted water. His experiments also prove that negative thoughts, words and feelings produce fragmented, disharmonious crystal formations and poisonous molecules.
Wow! When we really grasp the full power of his experiments we reconcile how our thoughts can either turn food into harmony or poison.
The French Vine
I think most of you have experienced the sheer perfection of French wine and the religion of wine growing in France. In France wine producers walk up and down every row of their vineyard touching and talking to their vines. During the process of this type of prayer they develop an intimate balanced relationship with their vines’ needs and nature itelf. Since the beginning of time successful gardner’s and farmer’s have understood the importance of talking to their plants, vines, seeds, soil and produce. They know that their words have power.
Digesting Pain & Guilt
If you cook and eat when you’re angry, resentful or sad, you digest anger, unforgiveness and sadness. If you are feeling guilty about your food when you eat it, you are digesting and absorbing guilt which creates heaviness and weight in the body. And we all know the weight of guilt — right?
Joie de Vivre and Lessons From the French
Ahhh…joie de vivre (the joy of life). In a phrase the French know how to enjoy food — good food — completely guilt-free while maintaining their weight better than any other culture in the world. They feel pain, loss and guilt in their personal and professional lives, but they have very healthy emotional attitudes about their bodies and food. Their bodies aren’t impacted by that petite dessert or extra glass of wine because they are not feeling guilty when they are consuming them.
We Have Been Wearing the Ruby Slippers All Along
We live in a world where our lives are happening so quickly and many times we feel like we are not in control of anything. We are certainly not in control of other people’s behavior or their life choices. So it’s an incredible AHA to learn that we actually have the power to heal ourselves and others through our thoughts and emotional vibrations while shopping and cooking. We’ve had on the ruby slippers the whole time!
The Sacred Meal
For many years I have heard the term “sacred” meal being tossed around so I decided to do a little research to find out what actually constitutes a “sacred” meal.
Basically our spiritual intentions and prayerful words over our food while shopping, purchasing, cooking and sharing the meal makes it sacred which means that all meals can indeed be sacred.
Obviously there are different kinds of sacred meals. Sacred meals celebrate new jobs, Baptisms, weddings and even death. Sometimes a first date can be sacred or lunch with a favorite friend and sometimes meals can represent liberation and redemption.
Sacred meals are how so many people of faith know and experience God. It has been that way for thousands of years. We come together as people of faith and catch up on each others’ lives. We laugh, recall history and tell hilarious stories about each other that begin ’remember when we…’. We ritualize and make sacred our food and drink in fellowship with one another because the meal is our fullest and most eloquent encounter with Divinity where we feast on, and are nourished by, God’s love. It’s just that simple. There doesn’t have to be a lot of theology around it.
The Eucharist is a sacred meal in which the bread and wine are truly Christ’s body and blood. When we celebrate the Eucharist, we recall the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross and in many ways we are liberated and redeemed.
The Emotional Chef and Getting the Joie de Vivre
I look at this picture of me and remember the joyful feeling of being on vacation with my best girlfriend. I was relaxed, happy and fully present in that moment. But in truth, I am not always feeling joyful, grateful and present. I am not always experiencing the Joie de Vivre. I work a lot of hours in a physically demanding job as a chef and I am oftentimes flat out exhausted, hormonal and irritated. In those moments I find that a short prayer usually changes my feelings and attitude. I often pray in the car before I go into the grocery store even if I don’t feel like praying. And after a minute or two of praying my energy is transformed by my words.
For Those In Need of a Prayer
Here’s one that works for me –
Thank you Lord Jesus that I have been blessed with the financial resources to go into this store and buy healthy food. I will forgive this person and situation that is upsetting me and not let them rob me of this experience. Help me remember that these emotions that I am feeling are temporary and I will feel better soon. With your help God I can turn this situation around. Thank you Jesus for helping me take care of myself and my family. I now chose to be in a state of gratitude while I shop and cook today because I know that I am so blessed. Thank you Lord Jesus for bringing me a peace which passes all human understanding. Amen and Amen. (Amen in Hebrew means it is so)
Then I take 3 deep breathes and keep rolling.
Not A Praying Kinda Person?
If you are not a praying kinda person, your own words can turn around your attitude. Simply say something like…I am so blessed to have the resources to go into this store and buy healthy food. I will forgive this person and situation that is upsetting me. I feel lucky to be able to take care of myself and my family. I now chose to be in a state of gratitude while I shop and cook tonight. I now chose to feel peace. It is so.
Understanding this shift in energy and taking action on it can and will transform your relationship with food and improve your relationships with others.
Embrace thoughts and feelings of gratitude and love while shopping and cooking and start turning your ordinary meals into sacred experiences today. Joie de Vivre is just around the corner!
I love you and remember, if you can make a cup of coffee you can learn to cook!
About the Author
Chef Missy received her degree in holistic and integrative nutrition at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in New York City. She is Board Certified by the American Association of Drugless Practitioners and has obtained additional training and credentials in Immunology and Endocrinology from the Institute for the Brain Potential under the American Medical Association. She also holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts in Interior Design from Converse College and a conservatorial degree in acting from The American Musical and Dramatic Academy in New York City. Chef Missy is the Founder-President of Conscious Nutrition and Living LLC and the creator of multiple brands including Radiant & Restored a Body-Beauty Course designed to restore a woman’s emotional, spiritual and physical body and The Holistic Francophile for beginner chefs, an interactive television show for people who love all things French. Chef Missy is married to Thomas Fraley, a hospitality veteran with 26 years experience in service management. Chef Missy cooks professionally in Charleston, SC where she and Thomas reside with their rescue dog, Abbey Road.